When To Let Go And Stick By The Decision


Yesterday, we put a post on Instagram about the movie, Acrimony. For the uninitiated, Acrimony is a Tyler Perry movie that follows a couple as they deal with lost hope and coming to terms with decision-making.
The full synopsis reads, A faithful wife (Taraji P. Henson) tired of standing by her devious husband (Lyriq Bent) is enraged when it becomes clear she has been betrayed.
However, the story is more than just betrayal. From the responses from people, it was clear there were more nuances to the story than just blaming one party.
Moreover, it’s probably a terrible idea to use a movie as a way to talk about relationship. However, there always has to be a way to start conversations. This movie opened my eyes to the fact that people cannot make decisions and stand by them; especially in relationships.
A lot of us make decisions yet it is hard for us to follow through with those decisions. That is why I’ve stopped making New Year’s Resolution. (Honestly, who makes those anymore). Here’s the thing, making any type of decision is hard. That is why you need the mental and emotional capacity to stick to that decision no matter what. It is called taking responsibility. Life would be great if we didn’t have to face the consequences of our decisions. This is from the clothes we wear, food we eat till who we decide to marry.
Relationships are hard work. Most people in relationships seldom see anything outside that relationship. A lot of people are in situations and relationship that should have been over. Many of them stay because they want to stick with the ‘ride-or-die’ notion. NB: While this thinking is good, it more often than not leaves people in toxic relationships.
In the case of the movie, Melinda decided to leave her marriage. SHE DECIDED!!! Yes we can talk about how her family influenced her. However, it doesn’t take away from the fact that she looked at her husband and decided that enough is enough. What happened to her was she couldn’t face the consequences of her decision. She had to stick by that decision. Most times, the actions we take for ourselves make no sense but it is up to us to look at it and take charge. We can rail at the world all we want but at the end of the day we did it to ourselves. If we don’t accept our choices for what they are, we would constantly look for who to blame. Maturity is knowing you messed up and still deciding to find the silver lining in the mess.
Love and life is a game; an unfair one at that. Even when you win, you would lose. That doesn’t mean we don’t have to keep trying to make things work.

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